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The Universe is Alive

Everything is alive, like Allen Ginsberg’s Footnote to Howl. Everything’s holy, everything wholly, everything’s whole. Which is not to say that it’s perfect just as it is and that there isn’t a job for you to do. Well, it may be perfect. But that doesn’t let you off the hook!

Meditation is not mere passivity

Some things are best accessed by sitting meditation, other things by action.
But that’s for another time…

The universe is a hologram,

a metaphor, and a mirror for whoever is considering it

Meditation and the holographic universeSome Buddhist teaching emphasizes the doctrine of rebirth. I hope this is an ethical device, rather than a metaphysical or ontological paradigm. Surely time, like space, as Einstein has taught us, does not travel in a straight line. Surely we are reborn into the past as much as into the future. Better still, can we not be reborn into the present. To become truly alive.

You just have to look at it, listen to it, imagine it, to know that the universe is alive, responsive .. then again, I only know the part of it that I experience. Then again, if it’s a hologram …

And if it is a choice, I choose to recognize the universe, every last part of it as alive, intelligent, and have no choice but to celebrate this living we do …

Everything is alive, like Allen Ginsberg’s Footnote to Howl. Everything’s holy, everything wholly, everything’s whole. Which is not to say that it’s perfect just as it is, and that there isn’t a job for you to do.

Meditation is not mere passivity. Some things are best accessed by sitting meditation, other things by action.

The universe is also a hologram, a metaphor, a mirror for whoever is considering it.

Some Buddhist teaching emphasizes the doctrine of rebirth. I hope this is an ethical device, rather than a metaphysical model. Surely time, like space, as Einstein has taught us, does not travel in a straight line. Surely we are reborn into the past as much as into the future. Better still, surely we are reborn into the present. To become truly alive.

You just have to look at it, listen to it, imagine it, to know that the universe is alive, responsive .. then again, I only know the part of it that I experience.

If it is a choice, I choose this.

Meditation and the Law of Attraction?

What the Buddha wants

Long ago I imagined living and working at a retreat on unspoiled land, far from the city, yet accessible enough for people to come here for workshops. I imagined that the land itself would be like a teacher. I imagined becoming native to this place, intimate with the animals and plants that lived here; as comfortable leaning on a rock in the silence of the night, far away from signs of our present century, as I would be in my own bed.

meditation and the law of attractionI imagined creating a sanctuary, where those who might not otherwise do so, could venture away from their challenging work in the city to renew themselves, revaluate, contextualize what they did. I imagined it in a single moment; and I knew it would be so.

The winter sun warms the ground, still wet from rain. The scrub-jays and jack-rabbits I watch from the window are not concerned with the global economy, or climate change. The new grass turns the landscape green. Two days ago we ended a retreat. Sometimes people come from as far away as Europe or Australia.

The Buddha and the Law of Attraction?

Meditation doesn’t necessarily make you a better person, or even better at what you do. Meditation is simply the power to direct the focus of your attention. How and where you direct your attention will determine the outcome of your meditation. Whether it makes you a better person, or more skilled at what you do, is entirely up to you.

Let’s say that everything begins with dreaming and imagining. Your attention moves you toward what you have already dreamed and imagined for yourself. What you take to be brand new, is often just a variation of your old themes. Then, once in a while, what seems to be the same old story, turns out to be an entirely new one.

You discover clues for understanding and living your unique and amazing life among the fragments of ancient dreams, or in the whispering of a yet-to-be-discovered one.

The Buddha spoke of intention as being central to every moment of our experience. Intention is at the beginning of every thought, every word, every action. No one knows where intention comes from. Even brain scientists are unclear about how the initial impulse of thought begins. Let’s call it a dream. Yet out of that dream there will always be choices for you to make.

You will naturally direct your attention to what you value — to what is important in your life. Learning continues forever, if you want it to … as you marvel at the way the world dreams back at you.

Some people say that we are like fishermen caught in our own nets. Some say that meditation makes things clearer, some say it just colors the dream with new colors.

We watch the geese fly overhead each year, south in November, north in February. The pond in front of our window is visited by bobcats, deer, blue heron, and red-tailed hawks. People sit there sometimes during silent retreats, re-visioning their lives perhaps.

Our dream is one we share with countless others. We draw into us what we already see. Yet no one can describe the rich patterns that are made there.

After Mindfulness?

Mindfulness has become synonymous with Meditation,

to someone with a hammer every problem is a nailinsight, the discipline of sustained awareness. It is your capacity to extend non-judgmental attention to the world around you, as well as internally, to your various responses to it.

Given the distractions we encounter every day, the discipline of mindfulness, with or without formally sitting quietly in meditation, would seem a worthwhile skill to develop. But is it enough? Or is it just a skillful way to keep distractions at bay?

Mindfulness alone is not enough!

Let me ask you …

What if you were able to never repeat the same mistake twice?

I’m talking about several kinds of mistakes:

  • Mistaken perceptions that lead to self-defeating emotions; resentment, fear, self-judgment, judgment of others, anger, stubbornness, pride.
  • Mistakes in communication, failure to communicate with others, and the myriad ensuing misunderstandings.
  • Mistakes of omission, mistakes of impatience or pride, and the unskillful actions that follow.

We can certainly learn from our mistakes. But what if we have already learned the lessons, but keep on making the same mistakes? What would it take to change the things that have had us keep on making those same mistakes long after we have learned that they don’t serve us?

Mindfulness is not enough. It’s a great start, and it complements just about anything you do, from having a conversation, starting a business, to playing sports.

But any skill can be used wisely or badly. You may have heard the saying that for a person with a hammer every problem is a nail. Sometimes a hammer can do a lot of damage; sometimes it just weighs you down,  carrying it around all the time.

What other skills can complement Mindfulness? Here’s a few.

Mindset

Attitude and the ability to change old self-limiting beliefs about what may or may not be possible for you to accomplish.

Energy

Energy is supported by good health, and good health is supported by your being in agreement with yourself. Enthusiasm, loving what you do, doing what you love.

Flexibility

Adaptability, the willingness to experiment with new strategies. Curiosity.

Gratitude

Hey! whatever’s going on your life is miraculous! Your eyes, ears, mind, body, friends; all of it miraculous.

Trust

Faith in the unfolding process of your life, intertwined with mind and intention in inexplicable ways. Your generosity as it emerges from that realization.

The list goes on.

Mindfulness is a good starting point, but mindfulness alone is not enough.

Loving Kindness Retreat: Maitri

Retreat February 12-15

Meditations on Love

Meditations on love and loving kindness
The ancient Greeks had many words for it, while we have only one. We send it in emails, and at the end of messages, without  a thought. We may long for another person, and yet we use that same word, with great intensity. We may use it to describe our feelings for a place, a pastime, a possession, a country, a meal. Everyone understands it, yet we seldom allow ourselves to taste the full significance of it.

The word of course is love. Love is not just desire, though it can be that.  It’s not just affection or affinity, patriotism; though it can be all of those things.

One of the best definitions of love I’ve ever heard, a Buddhist one perhaps, is that love is the celebration of another. In particular, it is love as a the unconditional celebration  of another.  We become conscious of that other (person … or thing) as a unique expression of life, of the universe — rare, one of a kind, marvelous, miraculous in ways it would be hard to fully comprehend.

How simple! Yet how often are we interrupted in our celebration by judgments and by our own predisposition? How often are we interrupted in our appreciation and celebration of ourselves and our own lives by the harsh judgments we make on ourselves?

So, love is also forgiveness. Love in the Buddhist conception of it — metta or maitri — is understood to be both boundless and innate. In other words there is no end to the degree to which we can experience or express our love, and that the boundlessness of it is something we are already born with, a capacity that extends our reach to the stars.

I can’t honestly say that I understand fully what this might mean. I only understand that at those moment when I am able to surrender to the immaculate moment, the pleasure of celebrating my own life and the life of others around me is inexpressibly exquisitely sweet.

The good news is that there are some specific meditations which help you learn to cultivate and develop these qualities of Love.

We have a three day retreat in February in which we focus exclusively on these meditations.

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Holiday Meditation Retreat

A silent meditation retreat in California over the New Year holiday. We will use the healing process of vipassana, or insight meditation. It will integrate techniques that help you truly bring meditation practice into your everyday life. Beginners are welcome.

Meditation is not something to isolate you from the world. It is something to give you the insight and power to determine your own course amidst the challenges of your every life. It does not ask you to conform to any set way of thinking, it actually gives you more choices, so that you can free yourself from limiting beliefs, decisions, and habits.

Although the intention is to integrate mediation and mindfulness into your everyday life, going away on a retreat to learn transformational techniques and perspectives will provide you with skills you need to bring meditation home. If you are a beginner it will give you a jump start to continue meditating through the new year, and if you are already meditating regularly, the retreat will strengthen and deepen your meditation.

“The Way is easy
for those who are not rigid.

“When love and hate are both absent
everything becomes clear and undisguised.
Make the smallest distinction, however,
and heaven and earth are set infinitely apart.”
from the Hsin Hsin Ming

The purpose of meditation is not to be devoid of feeling – ‘When love and hate are both absent‘ -  rather it is to help you become so fluid that all the natural feelings that go along with being human simply pass, like clouds in the sky, allowing you to choose how you respond, and to let go of old fears, resentments, disappointments – to begin anew.

Feelings are inevitable, they are part of living. Meditation is to transform the stickiness of certain feelings through clarity and awareness, and develop the habit of simply letting go. Meditation is a reliable teacher. The process of meditating leads you to towards the simple capacity of letting go of you ’stuff’.

Loving Kindness and Compassion are key elements in this process also. Loving kindness and compassion begin with how you treat ourselves, how you respond to the inevitable mistakes that occur in daily life. Learning to forgive and let go are essential; allowing you to become expansive, so that you are able to engage in the world with awareness and congruity – so that you become happy, and so that your happiness becomes contagious..

“Angels fly because they take themselves so lightly”

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The Art of Focus: Ways Meditation Can Change your Life

Video from Caitriona

A Mind as Big as the Sky

A Mind as Big as the Sky

Meditation is not just about mind control. Focus and concentration are not just about controlling the mind. It’s better to consider controlling less, trusting more – like a trained dancer, an artist, a musician who can express themselves effortlessly.

Meditation is the art of living, and one important discipline, that allows you to become an artist, capable of effortlessly expressing the essence of your unique life, is focus.

You may have imagined that meditation requires a whole lot more focus and concentration than you are currently able to muster. But that’s not true because what’s important is not the degree of concentration that you have, but the way you use the natural capacity to focus that you already posses. It is the quality of your focus that is important.

When we are distracted it’s often because of incongruities and inconsistencies within ourselves – inner tensions that we do not always recognize. If we continually imagine we have to become someone different from who we are; or if we imagine that we should be doing something differently from what we are doing; our energy is depleted and we become distracted.

When you shift your attitude, when you simply give yourself room to simply be the way you find yourself; and when you are simply present with what you are seeing, hearing, feeling, – something inside you begins to change.

The mind is amazingly capable of turning instantly into almost anything. The mind is as big as the wide world itself. It’s as big as the sky. This could hardly be though a bad thing, especially as it is the source of our amazing creativity. So we we would do well to celebrate the power of the mind to go on it’s own expeditions, even at those times you least want it to – when you are trying to concentrate, for example.

Celebration is a key here. Because you can also celebrate your ability to bring your attention back, when you are meditating,  to have it be simply present to what you are seeing, hearing, feeling, experiencing … right here and now.

Becoming focus through meditation very much depends on learning to celebrate the moment, rather than exercising special control to whip your wandering mind into shape! Attitude is key. An attitude of celebration brings joy, and joy leads to congruity, and from congruity emerges effortless awareness.

Practice being fully attentive for a few minutes several times a day, celebrate those moments when you can simply be present with whatever happens to be right in front of you, even though your mind may be drifting away for ninety percent of the time. Don’t focus on stopping that drift, simply celebrate those moments you can become aware of it. Rest right there, in that moment of awareness, wherever you are, whatever you happen to be doing – buying groceries, tending to the kids, waiting for a bus, pausing while doing schoolwork

Present Moment - Future Moment

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If you do not have a destination, a goal, then how can you ever arrive there? At the same time, if you have a goal, but are fixated on arriving there, without really knowing where you are right now, you cannot fully know the steps you must take. To pursue your dreams and goals, AND to live fully in the present, THAT is key. Caitriona Reed

Michele Benzamin-Miki on Meditation

Video of Michele speaking about her experience of meditation

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Meditation's not enough

There’s a story about a dedicated spiritual practitioner who was challenged every day by a stranger who passed by and would always ask, “What are you doing?”

Each day the spiritual practitioner would attempt to do a more authentic practice – praying, studying, chanting, doing difficult yoga poses, visualizing, meditating.

Each day the stranger would ask the same question, and when the spiritual practitioner replied he would say, “Oh, only that, why not go deeper?”

The spiritual practitioner would take on ever harder practices until there was nothing else left to do. Where could she go from here? How could she go deeper than she was already going?

§ § §

The point is that what you do is not as important as what you are.

Nor is it what you’ve done in the past, or who you know, or what you know, or where you’ve been, or what you’ve seen, or what you posses. What matters is what you are.

How do you discover that?

That’s the question!

What you are means what you embody. Everything you do and say comes from that embodiment, that being..

What you are is your essence, it’s what’s expressed through you after the work of transformation. What the work you did is not important. The question is how you embody the work now, and who you have become.

The work is never finished. So what you are is also how you continue to embody that work, that living.

Another way to describe this is that you become congruent. Your values are congruent within themselves, and with each other. Your conscious and unconscious mind are congruent with each other. You ‘walk your talk’… You are embodied.

Another, even easier, way to say it is that you are happy, joyful, and present to whatever  you are doing; not distracted by what is or isn’t about to happen, and still on purpose, even if the purpose is no more significant than looking out of the window, or smiling at a stranger.

Simple. Maybe not easy to arrive there. But simple. And we’ve all tasted it at some time or other, otherwise none of this would make sense.

What's more exciting than this …

When people ask what we’ve changed I say, “We became more passionate than ever about guiding people beyond any imagined limitations.”

Change is possible. More than we sometimes understand. Someone once said that our ability to imagine doing certain things actually makes the doing of them possible. That’s an outrageous statement. Because it puts all our dreams within our grasp.

Helping others to recognize and embody this, is an act of  love.

When you’re ready to make important changes in your life, it’s best that you go ahead and make them – so that you begin to live at your highest capacity – in greater joy – with greater positive impact in the world.

I keep thinking of a quotation from the Japanese poet Basho,

Do not seek to follow in the footsteps of the men of old; seek what they sought.

Go ahead, seize the moment, imagine if you were to fully embody all that you can be. None of this has to do with belief systems or world-views. It has to do with your own values, as well as how you value yourself, and your ability to live in deep agreement with yourself … and with the universe.

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